Why I'm Not letting Fear Run My Life Anymore
I have felt like I wanted more out of life for as long as I can remember. I’ve always wanted to live a life driven by purpose, passion and love and I know that, in some ways, I’ve been letting fear run the show.
For a long time, I honestly wasn’t sure what was holding me back or how I could do anything about it. I’ve recently learned that I was letting my fear hold me back - my fear of not being good enough, of not being worthy, of not being enough - hold me back. Well, I’m not letting it rule my life anymore. I’m choosing to practice moving past fear and operate from a place of love.
Pushing Past Your Fears
If you look back at your life, I would go out on a limb and say most of your regrets are going to be around things that you didn’t have the courage to do. Often, even if we try and fail, we at least feel like we learned something from the journey, but when we just bitch out, we’re depriving ourselves of that opportunity.
It’s interesting -we’re often operating from the head space of “I don’t want to get hurt.” We associate risk taking with getting hurt but, honestly, aren’t we doing just as much damage by limiting ourselves and our lives? What if we re-framed our fear, what if we were more afraid of what would happen in our lives if we didn’t chase our dreams with our whole hearts?
The Work is Never Done
Another thing I noticed was that I would take the leap of faith on one thing and then feel done. Like I had accomplished the thing, but the truth is we have to be willing to take risks EVERY DAY. We have to make a practice of playing big, of chasing our dreams without letting our fears scare us into a small life. We’re all human and we all have to be reminded of this now and again.
The Fears I Found
Other people will think that I’m not worthy enough to help them
Other people will get tired of what I have to say
Speaking my truth will turn people off
What I have to say isn’t worth saying
I am not worthy of occupying this space
What I’ve Learned
To stop living small doesn’t mean living without fear, it means taking the leap of faith regardless of that fear. It’s acknowledging that fear exists and choosing to do it anyway. Fear is normal! We are all scared of things, fear is nothing to be ashamed of, but that doesn’t mean we should live in this space of fear and act out of it.
We can take action while we’re experiencing fear. There is no world in which we will feel no fear, it will always be lurking in the back of our minds, but we can take steps to move past it. I am learning to reframe my fear, to be more afraid of not going for it than of my anxieties and fears. What kind of life do I want to live? A life that makes me feel inspired and that inspires those around me; a life that makes me excited to leap out of bed in the morning; a life that makes me feel good.
Now It’s Your Turn
Are you holding yourself back?
How are you holding yourself back?
Are there changes you want to make?
What are you going to do about it?
One of the ways I’m no longer letting fear limit my life is that I’m taking on coaching clients! I’m here to help hold you accountable, to help you push past your fear and live your best life. Set up a 15 minute discovery call to see if it would be a good fit for your 2020 goals!